“To be able to speak to teachers about LGBTQIA+ issues and to be able to support younger children with their identity is an amazing feeling for someone who had no one in school.”
When I was 14 coming out as gay was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do (and I’m currently in the middle of my A-levels and that tells you something).
As a 14 year old hormonal teen it was hard to pin point my emotions and how I was feeling, and at school I wasn’t exposed to any help that would make it easier to come to terms with the new person I was becoming and all of these new emotional feelings towards girls. I spent a lot of time googling things relating to sexual identity and the internet became my best friend, but I can’t help thinking that if an organisation like E&C was dominant in my school, I would have had an easier time coming to terms with myself. That’s all it came down to someone to tell me what I was feeling was okay, my family were always so supportive but I needed validation from peers to know that I was going to be okay and these feelings were okay too.
I’m 19 now, and after 5 years of finding myself and becoming comfortable in my own skin, I can see the massive influence that E&C has on my school, a school which 5 years ago the words “lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender” were never uttered. The training that is provided by E&C, if it’s through talks with students, teacher training, or showcases allows people to realise that LGBTQIA+ issues are important and relevant- To be able to speak to teachers about LGBTQIA+ issues and to be able to support younger children with their identity is an amazing feeling for someone who had no one in school.
E&C are so important for young people who used to be like me. Without their integrity, care and support, students who are struggling with their self expression and sexual orientation will suffer.
“I KNOW, from experience, that if you talk about LGBTQIA+ and educate everyone in schools, you will help so many young teenagers across the UK feel safer and more involved in their school community.”
A letter we received from Max
Last Tuesday, Elly Barnes came into my school and presented an assembly on the LGBTQIA+ community as part of her campaign to try and promote awareness of equality in schools. During this assembly, Elly taught us about sexual orientation, gender identity, the differences between the two and everything in-between, which is something that my school has never covered before. Because schools don’t often encourage people like Elly to come in and talk about these issues, homophobia, biphobia and transphobia become present in schools – because we haven’t been educated! When Elly was talking about gender identity, she covered the trans community and, when she asked us what “trans” meant, someone immediately shouted out the derogatory term for a transgendered person without even realising it was a harmful word (perfect example of how the current school curriculum lacks support for the LGBTQIA+ students).
As someone who came out as gay in year 9, just after I turned 13, I wish there were more programs or lessons about this back then, because when I came out I was bullied and I felt ashamed of who I was because I never had any support and I just felt different and completely isolated from the rest of my friends. After Elly’s assembly wrapped up, I went over to her and told her that I thought the assembly was great and how grateful I was that someone is finally trying to actively take a stand and educate students in hopes to get rid of the phobias that are present towards LGBTQIA+ people in schools across England. We then started talking and I told her about the absence of ANY attempt to do something she had just done and she was shocked to hear that we haven’t had anything at all about this until this year.
Now to the point of this letter. After the conversation Elly and I had, she told the teacher who arranged for her to come and speak to us in the first place, Mrs Train, who later asked me to put into words why this is so important. In the first year of coming out, I was bullied, shouted at, doubted and called names (you name it, I got called it) and although the school were good at dealing with the bullies, they weren’t good at preventing people from bullying in the first place, because they don’t make any effort to educate them.
I feel that if people like Elly came into schools regularly and taught year 7/8 students about gender identity and sexual orientation, then the school atmosphere would become a better environment for the LGBTQIA+ students who are struggling to come to terms with who they are because at that age, their minds are still being developed so teaching them that being gay/bi/trans etc. is not weird or a bad thing, then homo/bi/transphobia could be reduced dramatically.
To whoever reads this; please consider adding a class or assembly to the school curriculum and talk to your students about difference. Don’t just ignore them when they use derogatory language and pretend you can’t hear it. As teachers, you can make a huge difference because I KNOW, from experience, that if you talk about LGBTQIA+ and educate everyone in schools, you will help so many young teenagers across the UK feel safer and more involved in their school community. LGBTQIA+ discrimination is an issue that needs to resolved now.